Very long story short, Iā€™m a woman in the process of getting out of a long and abusive marriage. Iā€™m getting therapy. One factor of that abuse: Iā€™m still a virgin, at least as far as penetration is concerned. (Thatā€™s another long story.) If I can even find anybody interested in me, how do I tell them the only stuff I know about consensual sex is what Iā€™ve read about it? The few people Iā€™ve told the full story didnā€™t believe me at first. All I can imagine is a new person running away.

Various Insecurities Rock Genuinely Inexperienced Newbie

You shouldnā€™t hesitate to tell someoneā€”particularly a new person you want to have sex withā€”that youā€™ve never had penetrative sex before. And while you donā€™t owe that new person the full story, VIRGIN, you might wanna tell them what you told me. Give them the outline: You want to fuck...

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...but you recently got out of an abusive marriage and youā€™re getting professional help to deal with the emotional falloutā€”so youā€™re not asking them to be your therapistā€”but you are understandably nervous and more than a little scared about the fucking youā€™d like to do...

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